by Ivan Apfel of Ivan Apfel Photography
OMG, I know! Another “What you Must Have” wedding article from a vendor trying to convince you that you need to hire them! But wait, I’m a photographer and this is not about photography… well, not entirely. But it isn’t about hiring a photographer, so you’re safe.
Over the years I have had the “wedding planner” conversation with a lot of couples. Like you, most of the time they are really conflicted because from “Father of the Bride” to Hallmark TV features, they all seem to emphasize the wedding planner in wedding related movies. So there’s a part of you that probably feels like they are someone who you should have for your wedding. But there is also that part of you that says, “Do I really need one these days?” And your reasoning makes total sense. Think of all the things you can do on your own these days. You can shop for details online, there are a ton of “planning your own wedding” blogs and articles in magazines, you can watch DIY videos online, research vendors and venues from your sofa, etc.
Then you think, “I need food, I want pictures/video, I need flowers, music, and a dress. But a planner doesn’t provide any actual physical product. So maybe they’re a luxury that I don’t really need to spend money on.” And while that is a valid thought, let me tell you what their physical product value really is.
Sanity and Money
Having a wedding planner can save you both your sanity and some money. How? Well, let’s start with your sanity. Weddings, even the small ones, involve dozens and dozens of little details. While you will learn what all of them are by the end of your wedding, you won’t when you start planning your wedding. Even after spending hundreds of hours reading blogs and magazine articles, you will still learn most of them through trial and error. And that is enough to make even the most mellow couple go insane. That or immediately catch a flight to Vegas and elope. Wedding planners know all of these little details regardless of your wedding size and location. In fact, they have even learned some great tricks and tips that could make your wedding experience even better.
Let’s talk about how they can save you money on your wedding as well. So you know that list of photographers, videographer, caterers, venues, cake makers, and florists you spent all that time compiling from online? Here’s the thing, not only do they know them and many other great vendors not listed on The Knot; but because they also have a working relationship with many of them, they can reach out to them on your behalf and get you a discount or some complimentary add-ons. To go back to the first point, because they know these vendors, they can also help you pick the right vendors for the type of wedding you are having.
You Will Have a Better Wedding
No matter if you have a big wedding or a small one, or whether you end up using the same vendors you would hired without a planner; having a wedding planner will hands down, without a doubt, make your wedding better than if you didn’t have one. The reason is a very simple one. A wedding, regardless of size or budget is made up of three parts taking place in three locations and that includes weddings where everything is at the same venue. You have the pre-wedding getting ready, the ceremony and the reception. While easier, weddings where all three parts take place at the same venue, those events are happening in different parts of the venue. And while you may only be at one of those locations one at a time, there is a lot happening at each location at the same time. While you are getting your make-up done, the caterers are setting up chairs, tables, plates, candles, linens, silverware, etc at the ceremony location. The florist is bringing you your flowers while their team is both working on the arrangements at the ceremony site and the arrangements at the reception location. Your photography and video team is shooting you and your “soon to be” in two locations. Plus all of the other various vendors reporting in at different times. And no matter what, situations, issues and questioned at each will come up; often times simultaneously.
Your job on your wedding day is to be drinking the cocktail of your choice, relaxing and laughing with family and friends. It should not be spent running around answering questions, making sure things are being set-up as agreed, checking that every vendor is where they are supposed to be, putting out fires, etc.
Your planner will handle all of these things for you. They will also make sure that your various vendors know what is happening at each of the other locations. This allows them to know what they need to do, be where they need to be when they need to be there, and stay focused on making your wedding go off as close to perfectly as possible.
And how does this make you have a much better wedding? Because instead of spending most of your wedding stressed out running around answering questions, putting out fires, checking on vendors, etc; you get to spend it with your family and friends relaxed, smiling, laughing, crying, and dancing.
Not only does this create a better wedding experience and memories, but it also allows your photographer and videographer to capture a day full of real smiles, real laughter, real tears, real joy and real love.
So do yourself a favor and reach out to some wedding planners. In the end, you will not regret it.
Every little thing rolled with punches in this sparkly pink wedding. Elegance flowed from the well-decorated chuppah, table set-up, especially the chandeliers of the reception venue. The wedding dresses were radiant too, especially when it is paired with the intricately arranged bouquets. Goodness, I felt like I walked out from a modern-day wonderland after I laid my eyes on the photos! And since the couple knew a lot of friends who are unable to hear, they hired interpreters so their dear friends can catch up with the fun and laughter. Aww, what a thoughtful couple! So, to Alana and Roy, continue spreading your love for each other!
The Album Story
Alana and Roy met at work. They are both nationally certified Sign Language interpreters and were working at a video relay center. She invaded his cubicle and threw herself a dance party the second day they worked together! The rest is history! One of the more important things they share is his first and her second language, American Sign Language. Much of his family is Deaf and it works out that they can all easily communicate! They also share a passion for life, travel, and adventure!
We Are A Perfect Match
Roy and I share a joy for life. We celebrate things with humor and love. We understand the dynamics and challenges of our work, and can empathize with one another without much discussion. Roy is genuinely a great guy and truly cares for others. He is easy to love! Everyone who meets him likes him, including Alana!
Roy proposed while I was brushing my teeth on the evening of April Fools Day (following our fake engagement on April Fools Day the year before). That’s my Roy! Need I say more?
The Planning Process
We were engaged on April 1st, 2014 and married on March 1st, 2015. We definitely needed that much time to secure vendors (especially band) down here in Miami. We also had a large wedding so it takes longer to plan.
The Best Advice We Received
Enjoy the process! It all happens so fast and often you feel overwhelmed and stressed; but really, the planning is all part of the wedding! Enjoy it! It really is fun picking, working with vendors and friends, and then seeing your vision come to life!
Tips & Tricks For Future Brides
I would say, pick a Maid of Honor and Best Man/Woman who can really help you. Sometimes we pick our best friends and they just are not equipped to handle the responsibilities. You really need a lot of help planning and on your wedding day, so choose people who are ready and willing to assist! Also, choose vendors you can trust and who have a good reputation. Things will all fall into place and you won’t have to worry the day of because the vendors take care of everything (including a planner if you can!) They are the professionals. Trust them!
The Challenges We Faced
The challenges were choosing vendors and not feeling bad about saying no to the ones we did not choose. We were also somewhat limited and challenged with the fact that we had 200 people attend. We had to be patient and lead with questions like, “can you accommodate our large party?” It is important not to have your heart set on something until you know if can happen!
They did not exactly choose a theme for the wedding per say, but they knew we wanted something elegant, sparkly, and with a hell of a dance party! The majority of the wedding party came in from out of town, and it was quite a diverse bunch! They had Marines, Israeli Dancers, Deaf folks, Jewish family, and a slew of others! Roy broke tradition and opted for a best woman, Kristen.
The wedding also included Sign Language Interpreters and a special mix of flower arrangements to ensure clear sight lines for signed communication. Petal Productions masterfully created low arrangements for tables with Deaf guests and high arrangements for those with only hearing guests. The room had to be carefully arranged so the Deaf guests could see the interpreters from where they were sitting. This took some extra time and care.
Wedding Decor Inspiration
I wanted a very elegant and classy wedding. I love sparkly decor, but wanted to keep it high end and not kitchy. I also wanted unique table numbers. We decided to use, “Love comes in all languages” and have a different language expressing “love” on each table. For example, we had an “Amor” table and an “אהבה” table (Ahava).
Our Do-It-Yourself (DIY) Projects
We make all of the place/escort cards. We use a sparkly “ribbon” from Michael’s to label each person’s meal with a different color. My mom also printed out the table “numbers” (Love printed in a different language). We used the large black paper “clips”, covered them in the silver sparkly “ribbon” and removed the silver clip part by squeezing them out of the black support. We used them as the holders for the table number cards.
It started out as $35,000 (set by my father) but I think that’s what we ended up spending ourselves. My parents funded most of the wedding and I have no idea how high it went. I can only guess $70,000.
Bands in Miami run from $7,500 (on the low end!!!) up to $15,000. I was lucky enough to have a great friend who happens to play in the top band in the area! We still paid them, of course, but much of the cost was covered as a wedding gift to us.
The venue including food and beverages was the most expensive of all! The cost goes up $5 per person every time you add something. The base price may start out as $95/pp but as soon as you want chavarri chairs that’s $5 more a person. High end liquor? $10 pp more. And extra hour? $5 per person plus a fee! Of course this depends on your venue, but I think that is generally the most costly part of a wedding. There are places that host events and include everything in one cost. I mean EVERYTHING (flowers, photo, band, food, etc. etc.)! I don’t think they are super easy to find, not in Miami at least but they exist if you’re on a budget.
The Guest List
We invited around 375 people. It was a destination wedding because Roy and I are the only two who live locally. We had just fewer than 200 attended.
We figured most from out of the country and such would not come. I think it was important to think about how inviting just one person would affect how many others in that circle you would have to invite. (If I include one person from my “dancing friends” group that means I have to invite these twenty other people!)
All played by Elegant Musicians
Processional: Kissing You (Romeo and Juliet soundtrack)
Bride Entrance: Cosmic Love (Florence and the Machine)
Interlude: Flatbush Waltz
Recessional: Mazal Tov and Cosmic Love again
We are headed to Israel and then a 12-day European Cruise
The Next Step
I am excited to see what types of things we can conquer together. I am ready to travel and experience all the challenges life can bring. Eventually we will have a family and I know Roy will make a wonderful father!
Planning Advice For Couples
Don’t lose sight of your love for one another. Remember that this is about you two and if you forget why you are getting married in the first place, the wedding is worthless! Enjoy and take loads of photos!
Highlights from the Ceremony and the Reception
It was the most beautiful wedding! Our vendors were amazing. Really the band just rocked the house! We were up dancing the entire night!
Favorite Part of the Day
Having all of our friends and family with us to party and dance the night away all for us!
A Memorable Moment
Our Rabbi included our unique cultures and beliefs into our ceremony and it made for a special start to the evening. My mother made our Kiddush cups and we used both my father’s and my grandfather’s Tallit. We used the Flatbush Waltz to remember my grandmother while we did a circling tradition, and Roy walked down the aisle with his grandmother. We recognized his father during the ceremony, which was another special moment.
Danielle and Thomas’ Beautifully Elegant Wedding at the Breaker
This bride and groom are definitely one of the couples fit right in with the greatest and nicest that we have worked with. We loved working with them as they are good looking and completely in love.
When looking for an event planner they decided to select Joni because they needed someone that speaks Portuguese since the Bride is originally from Brazil. Joni actually has someone in her staff that speaks Portuguese and she was actually the one translating the ceremony for all of the guests that came from Brazil specially for the wedding.
The wedding took place at the Breakers and this is an amazing place to take pictures at. There was an elegant indoor ceremony within a gorgeous ball room that had an amazing fine art ceiling. The décor was a beautiful touch that complimented the breaker’s ball room in every way possible.
The bride and groom sealed their union with a shocking first dance where they rocked the floor with special ball room dance performance for their large group of guests.
Working with them was a blast and we are very grateful to have shared such a special and memorable moment in their lives together. The team at Domino Arts wishes Danielle and Thomas a happy future together.
Event Planner: Joni Scalzo with Your Special Day by Joni
Hair & Make-up: Jennette Zitani with Beauty Couture
Invitations: Barbara Rosenbaum with Salutations of Boca Raton
Bridal Shoes: Jimmy Choo
Band: Steve Mittenthal with Tropics Entertainment
Officiant: Rev. Jim McClung
Photographer: Team at Domino Arts Photography
Officiant: Rev. Jim McClung
Photographer: Team at Domino Arts Photography
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The families on both sides of this couple are just amazing. There was a limitless amount of beautiful people throughout the entire wedding. Starting with the bride and groomwhich looked like models. The immediate family, bridesmaids and groomsman were all just as stunning. Everything was perfect! Including the timing, weather, vendors and the party. People didn’t stop dancing and having fun.
Joni Scalzo with Your Special Day by Joni was the remarkable party planner that put this beautiful wedding together. She thought about every detail and executed it to perfection. They were referred to her by another past client and coincidentally, was also the coordinator for the wedding of Josh’s brother. Joni knew when she met Danielle and Josh, they would want an elegant and fabulous place, so she took them to Jilian Stevens at the Boca Raton Resort & Club.
Jillian is the best person to work in this hotel. Her smile is always on and ready to help and make things better. At the Boca Resort, Danielle and Josh were provided with the wedding ceremony and reception location, catering and cake. Once that was decided, Joni booked all the other amazing vendors that made this wedding the most memorable in their lives.…
Party Planner: Joni Scalzo with Your Special Day by Joni
Venue: Jillian Stevens with Boca Raton Resort & Club
Florist: Brett Woods with Boca by Design
Makeup Artist: Toshi Szpyra with Makeup by Tosh
Hair Stylist: Rebecca Mousseau with Phairis Bridal
Bridesmaid Dresses: Mori Lee by Angelina Faccenda
Engagement Ring: David Barry Jewlers
Tuxedos: Jos. A. Bank
Invitations: Salutations of Boca Raton
Ceremony and Cocktail: Yoel Hyman with Heatwave Music & Entertainment
Officiate Performing the Ceremony: Rabbi Jonathan Kaplan
Photo Booth: Event Studio Productions
The Domino Arts team had a great time capturing the photography during Danielle and Josh’s beautiful wedding. They are such a great couple to work with and we wish you a loving and happy future together.
Arielle & Shlomo’s Heartwarming Wedding at the Turnberry Isle Miami
Love was truly in the air as Arielle and Shlomo began the rest of their lives together at their beautiful Miami wedding. The day began with a heartwarming wedding ceremony atTurnberry Isle Miami and quickly turned into a night of fun, dancing and joy.
Party planner Joni Scalzo with Your Special Day by Joni did a fantastic job putting together a flawless event. The wedding was large but everyone was extremely prepared and organized. All the guests were happy, relaxed, fun and a pleasure to work with as the entire event was clearly a celebration of the love between Arielle and Shlomo.
The bridesmaids looked beautiful in their individualized, gorgeous maroon dresses. They were the perfect accent to the gorgeous bride with flawless hair by Tatjana Terzic with Looking Like a Star. Florist David Dalsimer with Dalsimer Atlas Floral & Event Decorators really hit the mark with huge candelabra centerpieces which went magnificently with the gold theme of the room. Of course no wedding would be complete without food. Stuart Morginstin with Danziger Kosher Catering and Annie Benarroch, Danziguer’s pastry chef, were sure to satisfy everyone with their delicious and aesthetically appealing dishes.
The couple, their friends and families were a blast to photograph and everyone truly had a great time at this beautiful Miami wedding. With an almost 2 hour Hora and a fantastically wonderful dance routine by DJ David Bitton with Bitton Events, the crowd was on their feet the entire night celebrating the union of Arielle and Shlomo.
The whole team at Domino Arts would like to thank Arielle and Shlomo for allowing us to share their special day with them and for being a blast to work with. We are so excited to provide them with the photos and videos from their Miami wedding to help keep the memories alive for years to come. Mazel Tov!
The odds of marrying someone with the same surname as you, unless you’re a “Smith”, may be one in a hundred thousand or even a million. But odds has never been an issue for these two fated lovers. After connecting one weekend, it was improbable for them to pursue things further because they lived on each ends of the country (Florida and New York) but love moves in an amazing, albeit mysterious, way and Rachel & Seth chanced upon each other again in the airport when she had a small getaway with friends. Right there and then, they knew they were for each other. And what better way to celebrate this awesome destiny two years after but with an elegant wedding in the famous pink Boca Raton Resort in Florida. The luxurious interiors of this hotel was perfect for the gold, white, and pink details of the wedding. Everything looked so grand. Nothing but the best for a match made in heaven right? Congratulations Seth & Rachel!